Sometimes, it is hard to remember our miscarriages. It is a part of life and it is not completely forgotten, but we tend to forget that there are other ways to remember our losses. When we are mourning a miscarriage, it is important that we remember that it was not the only way we could have been.
If you are grieving a miscarriage, it is important to remember that you could have been with the same miscarriages if you had taken the proper steps. If you know your miscarriages are not a part of your past, it is important to do whatever you can to ensure that they are not a part of your future. There are people who have gone on to have more children who still know their miscarriages, and I am very grateful for that.
If you are pregnant with a miscarriage, it is important to find a qualified counselor to help you through this journey. The counselors I know are compassionate, honest, and do whatever they can to help you get through this process. If you are grieving, it is important to understand that you are not alone. Your grief is not a personal loss, and you are not alone in experiencing it.
One thing we have discovered is that the best way to get through a miscarriage is to not think about it. It is so easy to think about your loss, to think about coming to grips with it, to think about the past, the future, and the present. If you’re one of the few people who have gone through a miscarriage, that’s a very good way to go.
This is also a good way to get some perspective on the fact that miscarriage is one of the hardest things to recover from. It is, in fact, the worst kind of loss for a woman. For many women, their entire lives are focused on being able to bear a child. This is especially true for women who have experienced a miscarriage. In fact, the average time between a woman having her first and second pregnancy is 18 months, and the average time between miscarriages is about two years.
It is also a horrible reminder that the way you think of miscarriage is also how you think of pregnancy. You will likely become obsessed with the idea that the miscarriage was your fault, that you did something wrong. But it may also be the most difficult thing to recover from. You may want to think you are able to recover, but you may instead come to realize that you can’t. You may come to realize that you are still carrying the memory of a miscarriage for a long time to come.
I am reminded of that when I reflect on a miscarriage I had about two years ago. I was only about three months pregnant. I remember having a lot of feelings, and I remember thinking, “this is so awful, I can’t believe I’m saying this, when I am telling you this now.” At the time it was the hardest thing to deal with. But the memory of it is still a difficult thing to recover from. It’s still hard to fully let go of that.
That you are carrying that memory of a long-term loss is part of the reason I decided to create this miscarriage memorial. I want to be able to remember my miscarriages and the emotions they caused me. I want to be able to say, “I was there”, and “It was awful”, and “I still cry”, and “I miss it”. I want to be able to be in that place.
One thing that I have come to learn about is that we are more complex than we realize. It’s the way we are made, and it’s the way we learn to live with what we are. So yes, my memory of my miscarriages is what I am now. But I still feel it. It’s still there. And it’s still hard. And it’s still upsetting. And I still cry. And I’m still sad.
If we’re honest, we probably think of our emotions like we think of our body parts. Most of us don’t think of them like that. We think of them as something like, “Oh this one has a stomachache or something, and this one is just so sad and tired that its hurting to even think about it.” But these feelings are the only way that we can really feel about the events that we have been through and the people who have been affected by them.
